2009 November

When I was younger, I often hear older people say “kids are different these days” and that always connotes something negative. Now that I am an adult, I also have the same opinion on children of today– they are quite different from how we were. And yes, I also mean that in a negative way.

Back then, when a child did something bad and teacher says “I want to talk to your parents,” it is enough to make that particular child feel guilty or make him/her think about all the punishments the parents/teachers could do to him/her. Then the child will try to behave better to sort of even out what he’s done.

So if my generation is worse than my mother’s generation and the generation after my generation is worse than mine, then that could only mean that the behavior of children humankind (because they will be adults later) is deteriorating. Why is this so? It is because the times change. Many would blame it to popular culture and media but I don’t like to go into that now.

I have a class in a private Volkschule (primary school) here in Austria. I go there once a week to give them extra English lessons. In one of our lessons, two of the six boys started fighting out of the blue. It turned out that these two kids have a long history of previous fights and of not liking each other in general. It wasn’t easy but I manage to break up the fight and then I told them, with all the calmness that I could muster, that what they did is wrong. I also told them that I would like to speak to their parents. To my surprise, none of them seemed to care. One of them even suggested that he’ll call his mother immediately.

After the class, I managed to have a word with their mothers. I talked to them separately and I am really disappointed on how these mothers see their kids’ behavior. Both mothers claimed that it could not have been the fault of their kid. They told me a lot of things that made me further conclude that they (the mothers) also don’t like each other.

I honestly don’t give importance on who started the fight or whose fault it is because it was obviously both of them. It is bad enough that these kids don’t care what they do in front of a teacher but parents who don’t let their kids take responsibilities for their (kids’) actions could only mean worse. Parents like these are not helping in the positive development of their childrens’ personality.

I am not saying that they should beat their kids until they’re blue or that they make use of grounding or any other form of punishments. I just wanted them to talk to their kids and explain that they did something wrong and that they shouldn’t do it again.

The role of teachers in children’s development is great and some would even claim that the teachers have more influence on children than parents actually have. Still, we could all agree that parents have influence on their children and no matter how big or small that is, it shouldn’t be taken for granted. Parents letting their children take responsibility for their actions is directly teaching them discipline, respect and responsibility.

Based on this experience, I hope that these two particular mothers and other parents like them could learn some sense on how to use their influence on their kids.

Many Filipinos, although they had an English subject at school, still can’t really express themselves in English. I think the reason to this is because they didn’t have the chance or were not encouraged to talk in English.

Give an ordinary Filipino an English text and he will be able to read and comprehend all of it but if you ask him to tell you in English what’s his opinion on something, he will most likely have a difficulty expressing himself.

Why is this so?

It is because Filipinos don’t have the chance to use English in their speech. Or if they do, they just put English words in Filipino sentences.

We started learning English at a very early age. Most of the school subjects are taught in English. Most of the textbooks are in English. We watch a lot of TV programs and movies in English. We are exposed to songs with English texts. But that’s about it. We don’t converse to each other in English so our English skills go as far as comprehending English texts and understanding spoken English. When it comes to expressing ourselves in English, most of us hesitate.

Of course, we’ve come a long way and compared to other countries who have their own language (not English), we are definitely more advance with our English. Philippines recognizes both Filipino and English as the country’s official languages but most of us still can’t claim to be native speakers of English or Filipino-English bilinguals.

When being asked, I always say that English is my second language. In China, admitting that means you are waiving your chance of getting a better teaching job so I can’t blame those Filipino teachers in China who claim to be native speakers even if they obviously confuse their p’s with their f’s (no offense but we have to admit that this is true).

Anyway, I always tell myself that the fact that they asked, means they can’t really tell if I am a native speaker or not and that’s good.